Podcast #017 - When Is It OK to Leave with Wendy Dunham, Mother of Three

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00:00 Introduction

00:55 How Wendy met him

03:50 Wendy had the revelation that she was in an abusive relationship

04:57 Divorce was frowned upon in the conservative church, which made the decision to leave very hard

07:28 A message to those who are in the middle of it

08:40 Wendy learned her value, and encourages others in the same situation

13:55 When is it OK to leave?

17:30 You can only take responsibility for you

20:00 The healing journey

24:00 Your support system

It didn't take long to realize that the man Wendy married was not the man that she thought he was. He was controlling, and emotionally and verbally abusive. It took a traumatic situation for Wendy to find the courage to leave.

Leaving was hard for Wendy, as she grew up in a conservative church where divorce was never an option. She did not want to leave, nor did she want the marriage to end.

Wendy did not realize, until later, that she was in an abusive marriage. After being with a man that berated her for years, it took her some time to realize her worth.

Wendy encourages those who are in painful marriages, to realize that sometimes, it's not your fault, but rather it's a matter of circumstance. If you are in a situation where you need to leave your spouse, it does not make you a bad person, or a bad Christian.

Wendy does not like the idea of divorce, nor does she believe we should give up easily, but she also does not believe that staying in an abusive marriage is what God wants for us.

Wendy would like you to be brave and encourage you. If you need to take yourself out of an abusive relationship, she believes God will bring the right people into your life to help you. God will help you.

“Call unto me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know.” - Jeremiah 33:3

“The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles.” - Psalm 34:17